The question to ask myself is not "Can I forgive my friend for behaving this way towards me?"
but rather:
"Am I able to forgive myself for having as part of my makeup that offensive quality she echoed for me?"
Showing posts with label Acceptance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Acceptance. Show all posts
Saturday, September 4, 2010
Friday, July 2, 2010
Looking Through Eyes Of Love
He was a weak knight who I dressed in shining armor.
I was damaged goods - a damsel in distress.
Two imperfect people in an imperfect world.
Oh, but, he made my heart sing.
And we made beautiful music together.
Music that, while not perfect, managed to bring out the best in each of us for the seventeen years we were together.
I was damaged goods - a damsel in distress.
Two imperfect people in an imperfect world.
Oh, but, he made my heart sing.
And we made beautiful music together.
Music that, while not perfect, managed to bring out the best in each of us for the seventeen years we were together.
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Restoring Balance
I wonder if navigating through life works better if you follow the same rules as in riding a bike.
When falling, don't resist. Turning your wheel in the direction of your fall will allow you to restore your balance more quickly.
I never do anything halfway. Whenever I take anything on, I devote myself wholeheartedly to it.
And that is why when the bottom falls out of it (as it always does eventually in one way or another) I feel the loss so deeply.
One thing I have learned (rather painfully I might add) is to go with the flow rather than against it.
So here is me taking time out.... going with the flow.... creating space for myself....recreating me (for the millionth time, it seems).
Once I stop resisting, it doesn't feel half bad. Even brings a sense of relief with it.
When falling, don't resist. Turning your wheel in the direction of your fall will allow you to restore your balance more quickly.
I never do anything halfway. Whenever I take anything on, I devote myself wholeheartedly to it.
And that is why when the bottom falls out of it (as it always does eventually in one way or another) I feel the loss so deeply.
One thing I have learned (rather painfully I might add) is to go with the flow rather than against it.
So here is me taking time out.... going with the flow.... creating space for myself....recreating me (for the millionth time, it seems).
Once I stop resisting, it doesn't feel half bad. Even brings a sense of relief with it.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Forgiveness
There are five things that you cannot recover in life:
The Stone ....after it's thrown.
The Word....after it's said.
The Occasion....after it's missed.
The Time....after it's gone.
A Person....after they die.
(Author unknown)
All you can do once you have matured enough to acknowledge mistakes you made is forgive yourself and move on.
As you get older (and hopefully wiser) there seems to be a lot of acknowledging and forgiving to do.
My inner journey took me back to where I was at personally when I started going with my first husband; and the negative feelings that fueled our relationship.
In hindsight, I realize he expressed my anger; and I fed his guilt.
Now I regret how I disrespected him; and I regret how I disrespected myself.
I vow it will not happen again now that I am more fully aware.
I will never again treat a person with disrespect. I don't have to like them. I don't have to agree with them.
But I can treat them with respect - even in my thoughts.
The Stone ....after it's thrown.
The Word....after it's said.
The Occasion....after it's missed.
The Time....after it's gone.
A Person....after they die.
(Author unknown)
All you can do once you have matured enough to acknowledge mistakes you made is forgive yourself and move on.
As you get older (and hopefully wiser) there seems to be a lot of acknowledging and forgiving to do.
My inner journey took me back to where I was at personally when I started going with my first husband; and the negative feelings that fueled our relationship.
In hindsight, I realize he expressed my anger; and I fed his guilt.
Now I regret how I disrespected him; and I regret how I disrespected myself.
I vow it will not happen again now that I am more fully aware.
I will never again treat a person with disrespect. I don't have to like them. I don't have to agree with them.
But I can treat them with respect - even in my thoughts.
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Freedom
While going through some papers today, I came across a quote I had saved from Craig Phillip's blog www.secondchancetolive.wordpress.com
"I no longer need to be perfect, just willing to keep my side of the street clean."
After a lifetime of trying to be perfect and failing miserably......
After a lifetime of being disappointed because nobody else seemed any better at it than me.....
After a lifetime of imposing unrealistic expectations on myself and everybody I cared about.....
I can finally take joy in being true to Craig's statement.
This has been the most freeing achievement of my life.
"I no longer need to be perfect, just willing to keep my side of the street clean."
After a lifetime of trying to be perfect and failing miserably......
After a lifetime of being disappointed because nobody else seemed any better at it than me.....
After a lifetime of imposing unrealistic expectations on myself and everybody I cared about.....
I can finally take joy in being true to Craig's statement.
This has been the most freeing achievement of my life.
Monday, September 7, 2009
New Beginnings
September always seems to open me to new beginnings - new possibilities - and at the very least doing old things in a new way.
Even at this stage of my life, I find myself packing things away to make room for whatever is to come. It's like a part of me knows somewhere deep inside which things I have to set aside; and which things I am going to need in the next little while.
Every day is an adventure - living in the moment - responding to the unexpected - on both internal and external levels.
Even at this stage of my life, I find myself packing things away to make room for whatever is to come. It's like a part of me knows somewhere deep inside which things I have to set aside; and which things I am going to need in the next little while.
Every day is an adventure - living in the moment - responding to the unexpected - on both internal and external levels.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Knee Deep In Pickles
I'm knee deep in pickles - and loving it!
It has been a lot of years since I had a reason to make pickles and I am really having fun with it.
I started out by pickling 25 pounds of beets. I wasn't sure if I would ever see the end of that bag. I think I might start out with 10 pounds next year.
But by the time I was finished with the beets, I was ready to tackle the cucumbers; and then on to the green tomatoes.
My favorite sound is that "pop" each cover makes as it seals - just like it should.
Fall is my favorite time of year. There is always so much to be grateful for. And the beautiful colors along with pleasant temperatures always pull me out of my "busyness" to savor life.
It has been a lot of years since I had a reason to make pickles and I am really having fun with it.
I started out by pickling 25 pounds of beets. I wasn't sure if I would ever see the end of that bag. I think I might start out with 10 pounds next year.
But by the time I was finished with the beets, I was ready to tackle the cucumbers; and then on to the green tomatoes.
My favorite sound is that "pop" each cover makes as it seals - just like it should.
Fall is my favorite time of year. There is always so much to be grateful for. And the beautiful colors along with pleasant temperatures always pull me out of my "busyness" to savor life.
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